Because culture is a type of shared consciousness, change has to happen collectively, Wade reminds. And on that matter, I couldnt agree more. Given this tendency, how might administrations go about creating an environment hospitable to competing cultures? To support that thesis, Wade draws from her qualitative research with her own students at a secular school in the American Southwest and a religious one in the South, as well as from meetings and focus groups with students and staff on campuses across the. Its possible to not hook up at all, yet still feel pushed and prodded by the campus sexual culture.
You really dont want to be there for the gross stage. Speaking of a different kind of inequality, the chapter Unequal Pleasures focuses on the orgasm gap. According to the Online College Social Life Survey, men are more than twice as likely as women to have an orgasm in a hookup. As Wade puts it, We are all in the fog. But the pages that immediately follow paint a more lurid picture, giving the distinct impression that college kids are fornicating willy-nilly, like so many bunnies in a hutch. It is, in short, a feat of social engineering. (Although students tend to hook up most frequently during freshmen year.) Furthermore, almost a third of students will never hook up during their time in college. Wade notes that hookup culture is a rape culture, a set of ideas and practices that naturalize, justify, and glorify sexual pressure, coercion, and violence.
Gayle Brandeis most recent novel is The, book of Live Wires. Step 5-C: Create emotional distance: The rule, writes Wade, is to be less close after a hookup, at least for a time. Another way of thinking about this is to recognize that students need everyone else to change, too. She wants the same for all. In other words, on average, students hook up once a semester, not once a weekend.